Rebalancing Your Life
by Deborah Leoni
The reason this topic caught your eye is because at some level something feels “out of whack” for you, right? It’s time for you to rebalance.
Rebalance means to restore balance or equilibrium to something.
Do you remember those cute little toys called Weebles? If you pushed or pulled them, they would wobble back and forth, front and back, until they eventually returned to a place of balance.
After receiving a cancer diagnosis, you can easily begin to feel like one of those toys – pushed and pulled in every direction, not knowing when you will return to your place of balance.
What is it that allows Weebles to find balance? The answer is stillness. Think about it. Any time we feel out of balance in any area of our lives, whether it’s our health, finances, relationships, or careers, it’s because of stress. The stress comes from multitasking, as well as self-sabotaging thoughts and actions. When we feel stressed, we are out of balance because we have not allowed ourselves to find stillness.
You may not always be able to control what happens in your life, but you always have the opportunity to choose your experience.
A cancer diagnosis can bring forth stressful feelings and thoughts; however, only you can eliminate your stress. You may not always be able to control what happens in your life, but you always have the opportunity to choose your experience. Too often, we make choices based on belief systems that perpetuate self-sabotage rather than developing new thoughts and behaviors that will allow us to learn and grow.
As a life coach, I help women with breast cancer look at how they can find balance. One woman in particular continued to show up for our group sessions incredibly stressed. She was always taking care of others – her family, friends, and church community. Her cancer treatment took away from the time she could spend caring for others, and her stress level was off the charts because she was no longer able to do it all. She was unable to say no in order to have her needs met, and she was showing up to the sessions exhausted, resentful, and frustrated. She was constantly pulled from one place to another, feeling responsible for everyone except herself.
As I worked with her, she began to see that her choices, not anyone else’s, were causing her stress. She began to realize how afraid she was of telling others no, yet it excited her to think of putting boundaries in place, to become 100-percent responsible for bringing balance back into her life and start healing physically, mentally, and spiritually.
Over the course of six weeks, I saw a dramatic shift in her. She created a schedule that allowed her to obtain stillness and find time for herself daily. She started feeling better, she had more energy, and she felt incredibly empowered. She realized that she had made a powerful impact on her healing.
You, too, have much more power than you may realize. I invite you to find some stillness. Name your stress. Then look for ways you can make new choices. Maybe it’s saying no. Or maybe it’s saying yes to you because you deserve it. The most powerful thing you can do for yourself during cancer is take care of you – physically, mentally, and spiritually.
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Deborah Leoni is a life coach and personal trainer who leads personal empowerment workshops. She is also a behavior coach for Retrofit (RetroFitMe.com), an Internet weight-loss program. To learn more about Deborah, visit HolisticHealingSystems.com.
This article was published in Coping® with Cancer magazine, May/June 2012.